Managing Behavior: A Parent’s Guide

Managing behavior is often the hardest part of child care. It’s what parents know from first-hand experience, and it’s why we teach behavior tips to teens who take Safe Sitter®.  Try these behavior management tips whenever you find yourself dealing with difficult behavior.

PROVIDE COMFORT

Offer the child a favorite stuffed animal, give the child a hug, or speak to them with soothing words. Say something like, “Sophia, I’m sorry you had a bad dream. Let me tell you a story to help you fall back to sleep.”

DISTRACT

Use a toy, story, or song to distract the child’s attention from something unpleasant. Say something like, “Sara, look at your favorite doll! She’s dancing for you! Show me how you dance together.”

GIVE CHOICES

Offer the child acceptable choices while still insisting on what needs to be done. Say something like, “Jacob, you need to give the ball back to your brother. Do you want me to hand it to him or would you like to?”

MAKE A GAME

Turn something that needs to be done into a game. Say something like, “Denzel, you pick up the toys on one side of the room and I’ll pick up the toys on the other side and we’ll see who gets done first.”

WHEN … THEN

Promise something the child wants to do after the child does something they do not want to do. Say something like, “Ella, when you put on your pajamas, then we’ll read your favorite book.”

TAKE A BREAK/START OVER

Have the child take a break by sitting in a chair or time without a toy for 1 minute of each year of the child’s life. Say something like, “Carlos, you need to take a break from playing with the car. (3 minutes later) Okay, let’s start over.”

Try these tips and consider implementing a behavior scale at home to help your child understand your expectations and recognize good behavior.

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Summary

  • Managing behavior is often the hardest part of child care — these six techniques give parents and caregivers practical tools for handling difficult moments with young children.
  • Provide Comfort: offer a favorite stuffed animal, a hug, or soothing words to help a child feel safe and settle down.
  • Distract: redirect a child's attention to a toy, story, or song to shift focus away from something unpleasant or unwanted.
  • Give Choices: offer two acceptable options to give the child a sense of control while still getting what needs to be done accomplished.
  • When/Then: promise something the child wants to do after they complete something they don't want to do — a simple and effective motivator for any age.
  • Take a Break/Start Over: a one-minute break for each year of the child's age gives them time to reset — and a fresh start when they're ready.

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