How to Be in Charge While Babysitting Without Being Bossy

When you walk into a babysitting job, kids size you up the same way students size up a substitute teacher — and how you handle the first few minutes sets the tone for the whole night. This Babysitter Boss episode shares five tips for establishing authority with kids in a way that earns their respect rather than their rebellion.

Summary

  • Getting off to a good start at the beginning of a babysitting job prevents most problems before they start — first impressions matter with kids.
  • Before the job, ask parents about house rules, foods that are off limits, homework and screen time expectations, and what comforts the child when they are upset.
  • When you meet the kids, get down to their level, make eye contact, smile, and greet them by name — if you want them to listen to you, listen to them first.
  • Don't just supervise — play with the kids and suggest activities together so they stay engaged and out of trouble.
  • When enforcing rules, be matter-of-fact rather than mean: acknowledge the request, explain that your job is to follow the parents' rules, then change the subject with a fun suggestion.
  • If a child starts acting out, distract them by asking about their favorite game, toy, music, or sport — redirecting works better than confronting.

Video Transcript

Kids are notorious for taking advantage of babysitters.

What are you guys doing? I can eat as much candy as I want.

I need my iPad.

My mom lets me stay up as long as I want.

Being a Babysitter Boss isn’t always about being bossy. It’s about handling what the job throws at you. If you get off to a good start, you can prevent a lot of future problems and when problems do crop up, they will be way easier to handle.

Here are my favorite tips for being a babysitter that kids love and listen to.

Tip 1: Take Good Notes During the Parent Meeting

Number one. Take good notes when you meet with the parents before the job. Ask what the house rules are, what foods are off limits, what the expectations are for homework time, and what the rules are for non-homework screen time. But also ask what the child’s favorite activities are. What comforts them when they get upset? And what special treats are they allowed to have? Jot this information down on your phone or in a notepad so you can refer to it when you need to.

Tip 2: Make a Strong First Impression with the Kids

Number two. When you meet with the kids, get down on their level, look them in the eye, and smile! Greet them by name. If you want them to listen to you, you need to listen to them.

Tip 3: Play with the Kids, Don’t Just Watch Them

Number three. Don’t just supervise the kids. Play with them! Part of your job is to keep the kids entertained. You can head off a lot of problems if you suggest some fun activities that you guys can do together instead of waiting for the kids to find trouble.

Tip 4: Enforce Rules Without Being Mean

Number four. Keep your cool. Your job is also to enforce the rules. When the kids ask to stay up past their bedtime or eat something that’s off limits. Let them know that you’re sorry, but part of your job is to enforce the parent’s rules.

Sorry, your mom said no cookies today.

Don’t be mean, just be matter of fact, then change the subject and suggest a game that you can play together or ask if they want to do one of their favorite activities.

Tip 5: Redirect Acting-Out Behavior Before It Escalates

Number five. Help the kids keep their cool too. If a child starts acting out, distract them by asking about their favorite game or toy. This works for older kids too, just ask them about music or sports or whatever else interests them.

And check out my video on babysitting bad behavior hacks for more ideas on how to keep the tantrums at bay. There you go, that’s how to be a Babysitter Boss.

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