How To Get Kids To Bed When You’re Babysitting

Bedtime is the hardest part of babysitting — kids don’t want to go to sleep, they have a million excuses, and it’s tempting to just give in. This Babysitter Boss episode walks you through exactly how to handle bedtime when you’re babysitting so the kids go to sleep on time and the parents come home happy.

Summary

  • Before the job, ask the parents about the kids' full bedtime routine — this may include a snack, a story, and a specific way of being tucked in.
  • Plan activities so they finish before bedtime — if something won't be done in time, suggest a shorter show, game, or activity instead.
  • Give advance warning that bedtime is coming: a 5-minute warning for preschoolers and a 30-minute warning for school-aged children.
  • Do not give in to excuses like "I'm thirsty" or "just one more story" — kids are not good judges of whether they're tired, and caving makes everything harder.
  • Stay firm — the kids need their sleep and the parents will appreciate you for sticking to their schedule.
  • Check on the kids about 30 minutes after putting them to bed, quietly and without waking them up.

Video Transcript

All babysitters know that taking care of kids is hard work. The toughest thing you have to tackle, the dreaded (baby cries) the dreaded bedtime. If you’re new to babysitting, you may be thinking, what’s the big deal? Just tell them it’s time to go to bed! The big deal? Even if the kids you’re watching are little angels, most kids don’t want to go to bed. And they have a whole list of excuses ready and waiting.

My mom lets me stay up. I’m thirsty. Just one more story, please?

Why Kids Fight Bedtime (and Why You Shouldn’t Give In)

It can be tempting to give in but don’t do it. Kids are not very good judges of whether they are tired or not. And if you let them stay up, they’ll get super cranky and be even harder to get to bed. Plus, their mom and dad won’t be too happy that you messed with the kid’s bedtime habits. Or worse, let them stay up and left bedtime to a mom and dad that are pretty tired themselves. Better to deal with this problem head-on.

Step 1: Learn the Bedtime Routine Before the Job

First, take notes about the kid’s bedtime routine when you meet with the employer about the job.  You did meet with the employer before the job, right? Sometimes the routine includes a snack, a story, and a special way of tucking them in.

Step 2: Plan Activities Around Bedtime

Second, plan for activities like movies or games to be finished by bedtime. If they won’t be done in time, it might be better to propose a shorter show, activity, or game.

Step 3: Give Plenty of Warning That Bedtime Is Coming

Third, give the kids lots of notice that bedtime is coming up. Give a 5-minute warning to preschoolers and a 30-minute warning to school aged children.

Step 4: Stay Firm and Don’t Cave to Excuses

Finally, stay firm and don’t give in. The kids need their sleep, and their mom and dad will thank you for it. Besides, you may actually get a few minutes of peace and quiet before the end of the night. Follow these tips and bedtime will seem like a dream.

Don’t Forget to Check on the Kids After They’re in Bed

Oh, and don’t fall asleep just yet. Remember to check on the kids about 30 minutes after putting them to bed. Just make sure you do it like ninja style, so you don’t wake them up.

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