How to Handle Toddler Temper Tantrums While Babysitting

Toddler temper tantrums are one of the most overwhelming things a babysitter can face — and they can happen over something as small as the wrong colored cup. This Babysitter Boss episode explains why toddlers have tantrums, what to do in the moment to keep everyone safe, and how to comfort a toddler once it’s over.

Summary

  • Toddlers are too young to follow rules or manage their emotions — when they can't handle frustration, a tantrum is how they express it, and this is completely normal.
  • During a tantrum, do not argue with the toddler — you will not win, and engaging only makes it worse.
  • If the toddler throws themselves on the ground and starts kicking, move objects out of the way so they cannot hurt themselves or break anything.
  • Ignore the tantrum as best you can without leaving the room — always stay close enough to keep an eye on them.
  • Once the tantrum ends, quietly comfort or hold the toddler — the experience is scary and upsetting for them too.
  • Distract the toddler with a game or activity after the tantrum, and do not punish them — toddlers are too young to connect punishment with behavior.

Video Transcript

As a babysitter, I just love watching toddlers. I mean they’re so cute! They’re super curious and they love to learn about everything. That makes them pretty entertaining to be around, but they also want to do things – like everything for themselves. That’s one of they’re cute, but sometimes not so cute qualities.

Try telling a toddler that it’s time to change their diaper. Nope! They have something else they’d rather be doing. Or that it’s time for bed. What? Time for bed? Oh no it’s not! It’s time to throw a temper tantrum.

Okay girls, it’s time to take a nap.

Why Toddlers Have Temper Tantrums

See, toddlers are just too young to know or follow rules and directions. Like I said before, they just want to do their own thing. Throw in their short attention spans, and you have a job that requires major patience on your part. Because when a toddler can’t handle their frustration or anger very well, they express themselves by having a tantrum. So, knowing that, it’s kind of easier to deal with. But still, not so cute.

What to Do During a Toddler Temper Tantrum

Here’s what you need to do to keep your cool during a temper tantrum.

It kind of looks like Peppa Pig.

Don’t argue with the toddler. You’ll never win. Just saying!

If the toddler throws our body to the ground and starts kicking (a classic toddler move), just move things out of the way so they don’t hurt themselves or break anything. Ignore them as best you can, but don’t leave the room. You need to always stay right there so you can keep an eye on them. Stay calm. I know, easier said than done. But it’s important to remember.

What to Do After the Tantrum Is Over

After the tantrum is over, and I promise it will end eventually, try these things. Quietly comfort or hold the toddler. Remember, a tantrum is scary and upsetting to them too. Distract them with the game or play with them. Resist any urge to punish them, it won’t prevent any future tantrums. Toddlers are way too young to understand the rules and realize how their behavior impacts you. They’re just expressing their emotions. Like you, they’re upset. Unlike you, they don’t have the maturity to manage those feelings.

So next time you come across the case of the terrible twos, just take a deep breath, and say, I got this. And when you get home, give your mom a hug for being so patient when you were a toddler. Thanks, mom!

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